Advice. I really need it. I can't stop thinking.

[Andy_192]

Hello to all of you!
Introduction, Right, well first off I'm 19 years of age, and about 2-3 years ago i met a girl on holiday, needless to say we've had our fair share of romance during that time, and then she had to leave, head back to her country. (I'm not willing to post too many details )

Anyway, back to the story. After we took different paths, we kept talking, she trusted me with her problems and all of that, it was daily conversations, morning before college, afternoon, evening before bed. Was really quite nice, reminising about the holidays.
Eventually she started telling me she was feeling something for me, and she had boyfriends of course. I was always pi**ed off, jealousy.. But after all of the anger and jealousy, i decided i would go visit someday, and at that time she slowly started ignoring me, first the MSN ignore, then the SMS, then the phonecalls. And at this point she's still ignoring me, it's been about a year since she last answered anything i sent her, i try not to be too obsessive about it, but i've done military training, and forgot about her during that time. As soon as i got out a few weeks ago, i started remembering her again.
I'm still trying to get in contact with her but she still won't reply to any of my calls.

I'm desperate for help. I can't stop thinking about her. No matter what i do she'll dig her way back. I was planning on going to visit after my short-term training in hope to catch up. But still nothing.
I'm being shipped to afghanistan in a year's time when my training is complete and i really want to see her before that.
Any advice ?
Why would she be ignoring me still ?

Edit: I've tried cutting contact with her before. But she'd send me that little message of false hope.

[TellingItStr8]

Andy_192:

I'm sorry to say but I think your friend has met someone. I know this is not what you want to hear but its time to move on and find someone who can light up your life. The time spend with this young lady was great but doesnt seem allow for something much deeper to come of it.

good luck

[LittleStar]

Since I'm a girl, I'll help you out with this...
It seems to me that maybe you are badgering her. This can go both ways now. A girl can badger the boy and vise versa.
Or maybe she has met someone and doesn't know how to tell you. When she sends you a message, don't send one back right away. Wait and see if she sends another.
Sometimes girls just want you to come out with it and do something like "I want to go visit you. Do you want to see me, too?"
Girls like that. We also like when you don't sound pathetic. I know it's hard dude... trust me. I am just ending something that is painful and I can hardly eat... that is why I am on here helping others.
You have to trust your gut. The way I look at it is, 'If it doesn't happen... it wasn't meant to.'
If she doesn't want to be with you, then that is her problem! I bet you're a nice guy and she is missing out. Find another girl that you deserve.
Hope this helps!
Hugs and Kisses, Calyn.