Need advice. Need help =/

[Andy_192]

Hello to all of you!
Introduction, Right, well first off I'm 19 years of age, and about 2-3 years ago i met a girl on holiday, needless to say we've had our fair share of romance during that time, and then she had to leave, head back to her country. (I'm not willing to post too many details Smile )

Anyway, back to the story. After we took different paths, we kept talking, she trusted me with her problems and all of that, it was daily conversations, morning before college, afternoon, evening before bed. Was really quite nice, reminising about the holidays.
Eventually she started telling me she was feeling something for me, and she had boyfriends of course. I was always pi**ed off, jealousy.. But after all of the anger and jealousy, i decided i would go visit someday, and at that time she slowly started ignoring me, first the MSN ignore, then the SMS, then the phonecalls. And at this point she's still ignoring me, it's been about a year since she last answered anything i sent her, i try not to be too obsessive about it, but i've done military training, and forgot about her during that time. As soon as i got out a few weeks ago, i started remembering her again.
I'm still trying to get in contact with her but she still won't reply to any of my calls.

I'm desperate for help. I can't stop thinking about her. No matter what i do she'll dig her way back. I was planning on going to visit after my short-term training in hope to catch up. But still nothing.
I'm being shipped to afghanistan in a year's time when my training is complete and i really want to see her before that.
Any advice ?
Why would she be ignoring me still ?

Edit: I've tried cutting contact with her before. But she'd send me that little message of false hope.

[21Questions]

Andy_192,

It really sounds as if this young lady has moved on. And I guess when she gets bored or upset with her boyfriend she feels like she can always give you a glimmer of hope and you will boost her ego a bit, by entertaining her.

Whatever the great qualities were that attracted you to her, may be the qualities that you find in another woman. I would suggest that you not give any further energy to her as she is preoccupied or does not seem to want any further contact.

I know you have heard it before but you are young yet and she may be the first but she wont be the last to leave a lasting impresion on you. In time you will think of her only with fond memories...

[Andy_192]

What i don't understand, is that she'd tell me about her other boyfriends.
Flaws, good things, whatever.
Why ignore me all of a sudden ?

[TellingItStr8]

Andy_192:

The only person who can really answer your question is her. I'm going to step out on a limp and say maybe she thinks youre getting to serious or maybe she is spending alot time with her boyfriend.